Doubt and Fear

Letting Go of Doubt and Fear

Bashar, an entity channeled by Darryl Anka, teaches that excitement is the physical translation of the vibration your soul has chosen to create in life. The things that provoke those feelings in us are the things that are most like us. They reflect us in our highest representation. Joy points us toward whatever we are able to accomplish most effortlessly. At any given moment, Bashar encourages, we should act upon whatever opportunity excites us the most. When we act on what offers the highest levels of joy and excitement, we’re saying that we have the faith to be our true selves and to act as our true selves.

Because we are always supported in who we are, whatever excites us expands our soul—joyfully and effortlessly. That said, expansion is not feasible unless we face and integrate whatever fears come up around our passions. Growing does not mean avoiding our fears or pretending that they’re not there. The light does not push out the darkness—the light penetrates the darkness, infusing it with brightness. Growing means bringing your fears inside of you, seeing the beliefs that make them seem so potent, and then infusing them with new light and understanding.

Our greatest fear is where our greatest potential lies. Bashar tells us that we feel fear because the energy of our true self is being filtered through limiting beliefs. When those beliefs are examined, released, and replaced with supportive beliefs, we are able to expand more and more into our greatest self. Thus, the fear is simply a messenger who kindly tells us that we have taken on thoughts that do not belong to us. If we let those fears go, we will experience life in ever more ecstatic ways.

For me, the world of regression has always been very intriguing. Ever since that very first book I read when I was little, it has been a source of great curiosity and joy. Following the miraculous healing of my jaw, I gave my passion full rein. It seemed completely harmless at first. It was simply something that occupied my spare time, gave me a new way of seeing the world, and made for fascinating conversations. Because everything around the topic of regression was so gratifying, I allowed myself to continue to choose the greater and greater opportunities that were presenting themselves. The energy was building and forming a whole new life.

Meanwhile, in my legal career, I was representing companies whose securities were traded on the stock exchanges. My work was very closely tied to the developments on Wall Street. As a result, the financial crisis that was shaking the world in 2008 was also felt in my seemingly insulated world. The news that droves and droves of lawyers were losing their jobs every day created panic in everyone’s heart, including mine. It felt as if the world were ending. The tension of the environment made me ask myself the obvious question: “If I lose my job, and can’t get another one as a lawyer, what will I do?”

I remember sitting at my desk at work one day, staring at the wall in front of me, feeling a sense of urgency. I needed a plan, something to fall back on. I quickly took stock of all my skills and abilities. Because of the stress I felt, the examination I was conducting had the brutal honesty and clarity of Judgment Day.

The only skill I had to offer the world was my ability to regress people, catalyzing healing and transformation. I believe, in my desperate need for guidance, I had created an open channel to my Higher Self and was able to hear the answer very clearly. In that moment, regression was upgraded in my mind from a mere hobby to something that I could actually do for a living. Regression was already the channel through which I felt most like my true self. It made me feel alive and exuberantly happy. I was fully present and felt most connected to Source. I was accessing and being my true self: The prospect of being fulfilled and having meaningful work seemed so appealing, but the pleasure lasted only a second. A moment later I was choked by the death grip of anxiety. The recognition that I could do regressions for a living triggered massive bouts of fear.

My fears were all about money. I simply did not believe it was possible for healing work to pay the bills. Thankfully, I had time on my side. I was able to stay at my job for three more years, which gave me the time to work through the negative beliefs that were fueling my fears. Remember, your transformation will be as fast as you allow it to be. I took this long because this pace served me; it made me feel safe. I was very honest and thorough in examining my beliefs. I followed the principles I have shared in this book and combined them with tapping to release all of my limiting thoughts. I traced many of those thoughts to my childhood, and I realized that I had been hypnotized into an understanding of reality that had been passed on to me by my parents and to them from their parents.

I decided to honor my beliefs rather than fight them. If I invalidated them, I would invalidate everything I was and everything I had created on the basis of those beliefs. By accepting their validity, I could gradually transform them into what I preferred to know as my new truth.

My Higher Self and my thinking mind were involved in a well-choreographed dance. My thinking mind was saying to my Higher Self, “I trust that in regression you are showing me something that could make me feel fulfilled each day. But I’m scared. I have so many financial obligations to provide for.” My Higher Self responded, “I love you so much. I want the best for you, so I will keep you employed and give you all the time that you need to work through the limited thinking. You can trust me. I will keep you safe. I won’t allow you to get hurt.” To which my thinking mind said, “Thank you. I will do the work, but please give me signs that I am on the right path.”

I slowly and diligently worked through my fears. Simultaneously, I allowed myself to step out more and more and present myself as a regressionist to the world. My Higher Self, true to its promise, offered me signs along the way that cheered and encouraged me.

By acting on my excitement, I reaffirmed my commitment to myself, my Higher Self, and the Universe. I was stepping into my greatest, happiest, most fulfilled self. I was grounding the energy in action. I was completing the circuit, and because of that Source was giving me more and more opportunities. I was acting on my excitement, and my bliss was showing me that regression could support me. The more regression supported me, the more I trusted it and the easier it was to take bigger actions that affirmed that joy. Bit by bit, I let go of the idea that my survival depended on lawyering. The light was slowly but surely penetrating the darkness, engulfing it in brightness.

We do not need to learn to trust; we need to learn not to doubt. As Bashar says, doubt is trusting 100 percent in a belief that is not in alignment with our true self. For example, if you are out of work and doubt that you’ll ever find a well-paying job, you’re putting all of your trust into the belief in scarcity—the belief that you’re not enough.

If we are experiencing doubt, it’s because we are trusting in something that is not in alignment with who we are. Our souls are able to create and experience physical reality because of the intense focus and trust they place on a particular set of circumstances. Through regression work, I have learned that in order to have a physical incarnation, we need to be in a state of total trust. It takes a great deal of trust to allow so much of our true nature and power to be forgotten and to place ourselves in a state of such limitation here on Earth. We already have within us the ability to fully and completely trust the Divine in the sojourn of each incarnation. Therefore, according to Bashar, we always trust. If we already have the mechanism of trust built in us, then all we have to do is direct it in order to experience the reality we desire.

Learning about this unusual perspective on trust gave me a sense of relief. I did not need to learn to trust. There was no hurdle to overcome. I already knew how to trust; in fact, I was trusting in every moment. What I needed to understand was why I would trust in thoughts of scarcity—specifically, the belief that I would not be financially supported for work that fully reflected my passion. And the answer was clear: The evil I knew was less scary than the evil I imagined.

The stress of my job, the long work hours, the expectation that I would be available to my clients at a moment’s notice no matter the time of day or night, the absurdly tight deadlines, the exhaustion and lack of a personal life—all of these came as the evil I knew. I felt comfortable with it. I knew how to manage it. The thought that regression work could not support me financially was an evil far more frightening. Once I saw this, the question became, how would I allow myself to trust what I want to trust? I realized it was simply a matter of refocusing.

We hypnotize ourselves into believing certain things. We pick out a point of view—or a point of view is supplied to us—and we take it for granted without questioning it. Meantime, we exclude all opposing points of view. This is so automatic that we don’t stop and ponder the different steps. I decided that I already knew how to hypnotize myself to believe in one assumption to the exclusion of all other possibilities. It worked so perfectly that I simply had to go through the same steps consciously, but this time instead focus my concentration on the things I preferred to believe in. The difference was subtle—I was simply aware and awake. But the results were profound.

I released the limiting beliefs about regression as a viable career. I also allowed myself to expand my understanding around being supported. I chose to really internalize that because God had created me and regression was the focus of my passion, the Universe wanted to see this joy expressed to its fullest in every moment. I knew that Source loved me unconditionally, and that it would support me in any way I wanted to know myself. It had supported me as someone who believed I could make money only as a lawyer. Why wouldn’t it do the same if I redefined my preferences?

I now wanted to change the definition of who I was. I trusted that in its unconditional love and adoration of me, All That Is would support that creation, too. That is what unconditional love is —love and help without any restrictions or conditions. I chose to redefine what abundance meant for me. I chose to see that I am abundant not only in money but also in opportunities, friends, possibilities, and open hearts and minds.

I chose to trust the expansion of my being. I chose to trust the direction in which I was growing. I chose to trust that I would be supported for who I am. I chose to trust that I am loved for who I am. I chose to trust that the Universe was supporting me with its infinite abundance in every thought, in every idea, in every desire, and in every plan that I had. I decided to trust that this support was and is always appropriate and always right. I created a little mantra for myself: I trust myself. I trust my life. I trust All That Is.

It became my sacred incantation, and I am happy to share it with you. I invite you to write it on sticky notes and place them on your bathroom mirror, on your fridge, or on your computer at work. Commit this mantra to memory, and make it your own. Trust is really at the core of it all.

My focus was steady and clear. As time passed, miracles began unfolding all around me. Opportunities were arranging themselves in ways I could not have even conceived. I felt as if a current was carrying me along, and I was simply sitting in a boat and marveling at the scenery. I was trusting and living the wisdom of the Tao Te Ching, which says, “The Tao does nothing, yet leaves nothing undone.”

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Exercise: How to Find Your Purpose

“What is my life’s purpose?”

This is the question I hear most often from my clients. It’s very rare for a client to walk into my office completely clear on his or her mission in life. There’s good reason why this question is paramount: It goes to the essence of who we are as beings. Translating creativity into action is expressing our essence—the reason we were created in the first place. Do you remember Serena’s life where she described how and why souls are created? Source created you because your unique combination of energies fulfills a need—a void that was experienced in all of existence before you arrived. You were created with the purpose to be your own unique blend of colors.

As children we’re often asked, “What are you going to be when you grow up?” We believe that we need to have a life-spanning career, a single title or goal that defines us. And when we don’t see it, we become confused. We begin a frantic game of “Is this my career? What is my purpose? I don’t know my purpose.” We look for the answer externally, rather than internally.

Yet the answer is so simple. Your only purpose in life is to be yourself. That is why you were created—to be yourself fully and completely in every moment. Often this answer shocks people. “Surely it can’t be that simple!” they say. They expect their “life’s purpose” to be something big, something great, something worthy of their time. In truth, the greatest missions are accomplished step by step. A grand life is lived moment by moment. And what could be more worthy of your time than being yourself, fully and completely, in every moment?

The expression of this simple life purpose will be different for each of us, because each of us is different. To discover what the expression of your life purpose is, I offer you a process. Please set aside at least 20 minutes of quiet time. Ask yourself the questions that follow and write down the answers in your journal:

• What do you enjoy doing the most?
• What comes most easily to you?
• What are you good at?
• What do people praise you for?
• What makes you feel that time flies by?
• What do you get lost in?

Knowing the answer to these questions is the first step toward knowing your purpose. It gives you the general idea.

The second step is to ask yourself how you can anchor these skills in physical reality. Ask yourself, “How can I be of service to others through my abilities, through what gives me joy?” Meditate on this question and write down the answers that come to you. When you trust your impulses and honor your excitements, you will be led into action. Do not expect these actions to be “big”—they may or may not be. You don’t need to know how these actions will create a career or a job. Each step will reveal the answer more and more. Step by step, a path will be created. All that matters is that you anchor your creative energies in physical reality by taking action. See what you wrote as a blueprint to follow in the days, months, and years to come.

The third and final step is to act on your joy. The key to living a purposeful life is to ask yourself, each moment, “Of all the options that I have available to me in this moment, what would give me the greatest joy, the greatest excitement, and the greatest fulfillment?” Then, choose that action. It really is that simple. Please take this question to heart; live from it. Let my story of how I followed my path encourage and inspire you. I never planned on my life being the way it is right now; I simply followed what felt exciting to me, step after step. Let go of the thought, I don’t know my purpose. Even if you are only taking the tender first steps toward becoming who you are, make this your new affirmation: I am living on purpose. In every moment I am choosing to be myself and acting on my excitement.

Our purpose is to be who we are, and to act on what excites—all while serving others. So whenever this conversation arises, please share what you now know. Remind those around you that, by not being themselves, they are robbing existence of the very reason they were created. Teach the young ones around you, and encourage the adults to be more and more themselves in every moment. But most important, live your passion. Live your excitement. Because by being true to yourself, you are giving permission to those around you to live their purpose, too.

Can you imagine what a different world this would be if each and every one of us honored ourselves and God by just being who we are in every moment?

(Excerpt taken from Beyond Past lives by Mira Kelly)

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