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Problems in relationship
Through my experience I have learned that
many of the severe and chronic conflicts therapists see in couples therapy,
marital therapy, and family therapy actually have their root causes in prior
lives. Therapy that explores other lifetimes in addition to the present one can
resolve relationship conflicts that prove to be resistant to the usual
therapeutic techniques, as many couples were.
When the search for the root of
the problem or its treatment is expanded beyond the limited time span of the
current relationship, much suffering can be minimized, or even avoided. Often,
the anger, hatred, fear, and so many other negative emotions and behaviors
manifesting in the current life relationship may actually have had their
beginnings centuries ago.
It is through relationships that we learn
to express and receive love, to forgive, to help, and to serve. From the
experiences that some of my patients have in the "between life"
state, I have come to believe that we actually pick our families for each
lifetime before birth. We choose to live out the patterns that will afford us
the most growth with the souls that will most effectively manifest these
situations in our lives. Very often, these are souls we have met and interacted
with in many ways in other lifetimes. People always ask me whether they will be
reunited with their loved ones in another life. I keep finding, and many other
researchers concur, that we come around in groups, over and over again. We
reincarnate with the same people. The group can become quite large, as the number
of lifetimes increases, but the core group remains small and fairly constant.
Relationships within the core group may change. For example, a mother-son
relationship in one lifetime might recur as a sibling relationship in another,
but the spirits or souls are the same. With regression experiences, recognition
of the previous relationships can be brought to awareness.
The subconscious recognition of a person
with whom we have had a past life connection is sometimes manifested by an immediate
attraction or repulsion and by the repetition of the old behavior programming
from the past life. The behavior may seem out of context or out of balance in
the circumstances of the present life. This occurs most frequently in families
or in couples where the relationships are closer and the bonds are more
powerful. But past life recognition and acting out of ancient behavior patterns
can also occur in many other relationships, such as boss-employee, neighbors,
teacher and student, and even at the level of world leaders lunging at each
other's throats...
Family members as well as couples can be regressed
individually, as in any other past life exploration, or also simultaneously to
resolve problems they share or to make a good relationship even more meaningful
and insightful. When they compare their regression experiences, they sometimes
find that they have unknowingly regressed to the same lifetime and have found
the others there. The improvement in relationships after such group regressions
is often quite rapid and dramatic, similar to the improvement seen with
individuals who get rid of chronic emotional or physical symptoms by regressing
to the true precipitating causes of the problems, whether in this lifetime or
another.
In fact, some therapists who work with
couples and families are already using regression therapy quite successfully in
their practices. Adopted families are no different from biological children in
this regard. I have regressed more than one adopted child who has discovered that
he or she has shared previous lifetimes with his or her adoptive parents.
Patients do not always have to return to past lives to improve family
relationships through hypnosis. There was a patient who was having problems
resolving her relationship with her authoritarian, strict, and distant father
who was now deceased. The man had made her feel unloved. He had abused her
emotionally by insulting her. He was so remote to Betsy that she had trouble
dealing with him in therapy. Despite all of this, she still loved her father,
but she couldn't take him off the pedestal long enough to see him accurately in
order to deal with their relationship in an effective way.
To share many lifetimes, joy and sorrow,
achievement and despair, love and forgiveness, anger and grace, and, above all,
endless growth with another soul is what it truly means to have a soulmate. A
soulmate is often someone with whom we meet and feel an instant connection, as
though we have known that person for a long time. In fact, we probably have. We
do not have to be romantically involved with a person to experience the
satisfaction and fulfillment of the soulmate connection. Nor do we each have
only one soulmate. The popular Western idea propagated by the philosopher
Plato, that each of us has only one perfect other half who can
"complete" our own incomplete soul, is only partially true. While
others can seem to complete our experience—sharing and expanding our growth,
intimacy, and joy—it is more likely that we have a soul group that consists of
many soulmates. This may be a small group of souls that gets larger as we
collect deep experiences with more and more souls over many lifetimes, but the
feeling of having known a person before or sharing intense feelings and
insights is certainly not limited to one person. We can even have more than one
soulmate relationship at a time. Our romantic partner may complete our soul in
one way, and so may, in other ways, a best friend, aparent, or a child.
As we grow by interacting with our
soulmates, we ascend the ladder of lifetimes. We transcend old patterns, come
to fully experience love and joy, and lose every last vestige of anger and
fear.
Eventually, we come to the point where we
can voluntarily choose to be reborn to help others directly or even choose to
stay in spirit form and help others from another level.
Reincarnation for emotional growth is
then no longer necessary. We can move from this path of growth to the path of
growth through service. To lose a soulmate to death or separation is by no
means a loss of the opportunity to grow. A patient of mine recently lost her
husband in an accident. She was absolutely devastated, certain that she had
lost her soulmate and that nothing in life would ever have the same meaning or
be worth anticipating. While her grief she can look forward to future
relationships that may be just as full of love, passion, intimacy, and growth.
is very deep, real, and justified, we are working on the idea that she can look
forward to future relationships that may be just as full of love, passion, intimacy,
and growth.
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